To answer Brooklyn's question ... this is my sappy love song to my friend in Washington DC. I love this city and Bread's "If" is the best way I can find to explain my feelings.
Monday, November 26, 2007
Saturday, November 24, 2007
Playing Catch Up
Lauren & Gordon, November 2007
I have been busy, really busy. I haven't posted any pictures in weeks. That just isn't like me. So, with out further delay (and more debate) I give you Washington DC!
I had been looking forward to staying with my good friend, Carolyn, for a long time. I am ashamed to say that I did not get a picture of Carolyn while I was there but I did get ribbon, lots and lots of ribbon. The ribbon factory in Hagerstown MD is an amazing candy store for the crafty. Roll after roll of beautiful colors just there for the tasting. They even have bolts of ribbon fabric that hasn't been cut yet. I had to borrow a suit case from Carolyn just to get all the ribbon I picked up home. THANK YOU, CAROLYN!
My next stop was the Washington DC temple. I was out there to shoot a wedding with two very entertaining families who had travelled to see the wedding of Lauren and Gordon. I met Lauren through my niece Kjirsten who also came in from Maine for the weekend. I love KJ. Here she is with some lovely fall foliage in the back ground.
Unfortunately, we were greeted at the temple with heavy loam. Apparently, the foundation had a leak and they pick this bride's rainy wedding day to dig up all the temple stairs. Thanks, guys.
Dear KJ,
Don't take it personally. The Lord really does want you to enter the temple!
Carolyn and I did some quick thinking (and shopping) and came up with the umbrella motif. Luckily, the severe thunder storms abated in time for the pictures. We used the umbrellas anyway. More DC tomorrow.
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
Turkeys and Kids ...
Are you hanging out with small children this Thanksgiving? Well, might I recommend my friend Amy's blog to brush up on your kid's Thanksgiving story-time skills. Try it and you will be the most popular grown up at the dinner table this year.
Thanks, Amy.
http://laptimeandstorytime.blogspot.com/
Thanks, Amy.
http://laptimeandstorytime.blogspot.com/
Saturday, November 17, 2007
Fascinating Womanhood
I am still in DC and crazy busy but I wanted to post this letter. It is a response to Julie Beck's "A Return to Fascinating Womanhood" talk. (I think she really called it "Mothers Who Know".)
For the record, Julie Beck lives close to my parents in Alpine. Her husband, Ramon, has been the president of Bank of American Fork in Alpine for many years. I highly doubt she ever added water to the milk to make it stretch to the next pay day ... if you know what I mean. Mom said she taught piano for years in her house until she contracted chronic-fatigue. At that point, she did almost nothing but study the scriptures when she could not leave the house due to sickness. She grew up as the child of a mission president, and her parents served several missions in South America when she was a kid.
Is she a simple 1950's housewife like she came across as in conference? I can't answer that question. Personally, after meeting her several times, I didn't think so, and I was very surprised by the tone of her talk.
The talk made a lot of people I know uncomfortable, and I am glad to share this response. It's from a site called http://whatwomenknow.org. It's a little extreme, maybe, in places ("unutterable sadness" caused by the Stripling Warriors story?) but makes some really good points. The site lists the names of the women who wrote or have signed on to the rebuttal, and invites other women to join.
*******
In October 2007, Julie B. Beck, president of the Latter-day Saint women's organization, the Relief Society, gave a speech in the semiannual worldwide General Conference titled “Mothers Who Know.” Beck's focus on LDS families, and more particularly on the role and influence of mothers, is a subject close to our hearts. Who are we? We are women who differ in age, income, race/ethnicity, and marital status. Many of us are mothers, some with exceptionally large families. Some of us are grandmothers and great-grandmothers many times over. Some are young mothers, with infants and elementary-age children. Others of us—for reasons of biology, opportunity, or choice—do not have children. Some of us have never married. Some of us are single because of divorce or widowhood. A few of us have been with the same partner more than 50 years.
We all work—paid or unpaid, both inside and outside our homes. We share many decades of church service among us. In fact, our LDS background is our common denominator.Several ideas within the body of President Beck's talk conflict with our inspiration and experience. We are authors of our own lives, and this is the story we know to be true:
What Women Know
Fathers as well as mothers, men as well as women, are called to nurture. Nurturing is not confined to mothering or housekeeping, but is a universal attribute that communicates patience, peacefulness, and care.
Individuals and relationships flourish when we are able to share not only our strengths but also our mutual imperfections and needs. It is difficult to be compassionate with ourselves and others when we internalize injunctions to perform (e.g., “the highest-performing sister missionary,” “the best homemaker in the world,” “the most patient and loving mother”). Motherhood and sisterhood cannot be reduced to the performance of narrowly-prescribed tasks, but emerge from who we know ourselves to be.
Cleanliness depends upon access to resources and has more to do with priorities than purity of heart. We do not place the additional burden of “outward appearances” on our sisters who are hauling fuel and water long distances; who are struggling with poverty, isolation, or ill health; or who choose values that take precedence over orderly living quarters and polished looks.
Housework is something that grownups do and that children learn by example and instruction. Unfortunately, women and girls still perform the bulk of the world's low-paid and unpaid labor, including housework—often at the expense of their own education, leadership, creativity, health, and well-being. Men and boys who share care-work and household responsibilities make it possible for all family members to live happier, more fulfilling lives.
We reverence the responsibility to choose how, when, and whether we become parents. Many of us have adoptive and foster children and grandchildren from diverse ethnicities and cultures. We have given birth to children who range widely on every dimension—from personality, appearance, and sexual identity to physical, social, and mental ability. No matter what their differences, we care for them all.
Effective parenting is a learned behavior, and, as parents, we learn and grow with each child. Children come with their own gifts, challenges, and freedom of choice. We reject teachings that encourage women to shoulder ultimate responsibility for every aspect of child-rearing and family life, and to take on shame and guilt when things do not go according to plan.
The choice to have children does not rule out other avenues of influence and power. By valuing ourselves as lifelong achievers, apart from our roles as mothers, friends, partners, sisters, aunts, and grandmothers, we stand for creativity, public service, competence, and growth. We take joy in the collective contributions we make in the fields of government, medicine, academia, law, journalism, human services, business, art, health care advocacy, music, technology, child development, and science.
When it comes to employment, most women prefer the luxury of choice to the limitations of necessity. Women-friendly policies such as flex-time and comparable pay for women and men, access to health care, family leave for births and care-work, and affordable, high-quality childcare give all of us—single or partnered, impoverished or privileged—greater choice in how to support ourselves and our families.
We work because we want to; because we need to; and because we have no other choice. We know that “children are more important than possessions, position, and prestige.” Some of us have been thrust into the position of sole economic support of our children through desertion, divorce, domestic violence, or death. Indeed, too many of us have learned that we are just one fully-employed male away from poverty.
Men are our fathers, sons, brothers, partners, lovers, and friends. Many of them also struggle within a system that equates leadership with hierarchy and domination. We distrust separate-but-equal rhetoric; anyone who is regularly reminded that she is “equally important” is probably not. Partnership is illusory without equal decision-making power.
We have discovered that healthy relationships are equitable relationships. A relationship that is balanced in terms of economic and emotional power is safer and more resilient than a relationship in which one partner holds most or all of the power. Women with active support networks and marketable skills have greater options, not only in relationships, but in life.
We claim the life-affirming powers of spirit, breath, and wisdom, and reject the glorification of violence in all its forms. We are filled with unutterable sadness by the Book of Mormon story of more than 2,000 young soldiers whose mothers teach them that faith in God will preserve them in battles in which they kill other mothers' children. This is not a success story. It is a story of the failure of human relationships and the horrors of war. In a world that has grown increasingly violent, we believe that one of the most important passages in LDS scripture is D&C 98:16: “Therefore, renounce war and proclaim peace. . . .”
Our roles as mothers, sisters, daughters, partners, and friends are just a few of the many parts we will play in the course of our lives. We may influence hundreds, perhaps thousands of lives. But we are not our roles. We are created in the image of the divine—women of worth in our own right, in our choices, in our individuality, and in our belief that the life story we are ultimately responsible for is our own.
*****
There it is, sistahs. Tell me what you think!
For the record, Julie Beck lives close to my parents in Alpine. Her husband, Ramon, has been the president of Bank of American Fork in Alpine for many years. I highly doubt she ever added water to the milk to make it stretch to the next pay day ... if you know what I mean. Mom said she taught piano for years in her house until she contracted chronic-fatigue. At that point, she did almost nothing but study the scriptures when she could not leave the house due to sickness. She grew up as the child of a mission president, and her parents served several missions in South America when she was a kid.
Is she a simple 1950's housewife like she came across as in conference? I can't answer that question. Personally, after meeting her several times, I didn't think so, and I was very surprised by the tone of her talk.
The talk made a lot of people I know uncomfortable, and I am glad to share this response. It's from a site called http://whatwomenknow.org. It's a little extreme, maybe, in places ("unutterable sadness" caused by the Stripling Warriors story?) but makes some really good points. The site lists the names of the women who wrote or have signed on to the rebuttal, and invites other women to join.
*******
In October 2007, Julie B. Beck, president of the Latter-day Saint women's organization, the Relief Society, gave a speech in the semiannual worldwide General Conference titled “Mothers Who Know.” Beck's focus on LDS families, and more particularly on the role and influence of mothers, is a subject close to our hearts. Who are we? We are women who differ in age, income, race/ethnicity, and marital status. Many of us are mothers, some with exceptionally large families. Some of us are grandmothers and great-grandmothers many times over. Some are young mothers, with infants and elementary-age children. Others of us—for reasons of biology, opportunity, or choice—do not have children. Some of us have never married. Some of us are single because of divorce or widowhood. A few of us have been with the same partner more than 50 years.
We all work—paid or unpaid, both inside and outside our homes. We share many decades of church service among us. In fact, our LDS background is our common denominator.Several ideas within the body of President Beck's talk conflict with our inspiration and experience. We are authors of our own lives, and this is the story we know to be true:
What Women Know
Fathers as well as mothers, men as well as women, are called to nurture. Nurturing is not confined to mothering or housekeeping, but is a universal attribute that communicates patience, peacefulness, and care.
Individuals and relationships flourish when we are able to share not only our strengths but also our mutual imperfections and needs. It is difficult to be compassionate with ourselves and others when we internalize injunctions to perform (e.g., “the highest-performing sister missionary,” “the best homemaker in the world,” “the most patient and loving mother”). Motherhood and sisterhood cannot be reduced to the performance of narrowly-prescribed tasks, but emerge from who we know ourselves to be.
Cleanliness depends upon access to resources and has more to do with priorities than purity of heart. We do not place the additional burden of “outward appearances” on our sisters who are hauling fuel and water long distances; who are struggling with poverty, isolation, or ill health; or who choose values that take precedence over orderly living quarters and polished looks.
Housework is something that grownups do and that children learn by example and instruction. Unfortunately, women and girls still perform the bulk of the world's low-paid and unpaid labor, including housework—often at the expense of their own education, leadership, creativity, health, and well-being. Men and boys who share care-work and household responsibilities make it possible for all family members to live happier, more fulfilling lives.
We reverence the responsibility to choose how, when, and whether we become parents. Many of us have adoptive and foster children and grandchildren from diverse ethnicities and cultures. We have given birth to children who range widely on every dimension—from personality, appearance, and sexual identity to physical, social, and mental ability. No matter what their differences, we care for them all.
Effective parenting is a learned behavior, and, as parents, we learn and grow with each child. Children come with their own gifts, challenges, and freedom of choice. We reject teachings that encourage women to shoulder ultimate responsibility for every aspect of child-rearing and family life, and to take on shame and guilt when things do not go according to plan.
The choice to have children does not rule out other avenues of influence and power. By valuing ourselves as lifelong achievers, apart from our roles as mothers, friends, partners, sisters, aunts, and grandmothers, we stand for creativity, public service, competence, and growth. We take joy in the collective contributions we make in the fields of government, medicine, academia, law, journalism, human services, business, art, health care advocacy, music, technology, child development, and science.
When it comes to employment, most women prefer the luxury of choice to the limitations of necessity. Women-friendly policies such as flex-time and comparable pay for women and men, access to health care, family leave for births and care-work, and affordable, high-quality childcare give all of us—single or partnered, impoverished or privileged—greater choice in how to support ourselves and our families.
We work because we want to; because we need to; and because we have no other choice. We know that “children are more important than possessions, position, and prestige.” Some of us have been thrust into the position of sole economic support of our children through desertion, divorce, domestic violence, or death. Indeed, too many of us have learned that we are just one fully-employed male away from poverty.
Men are our fathers, sons, brothers, partners, lovers, and friends. Many of them also struggle within a system that equates leadership with hierarchy and domination. We distrust separate-but-equal rhetoric; anyone who is regularly reminded that she is “equally important” is probably not. Partnership is illusory without equal decision-making power.
We have discovered that healthy relationships are equitable relationships. A relationship that is balanced in terms of economic and emotional power is safer and more resilient than a relationship in which one partner holds most or all of the power. Women with active support networks and marketable skills have greater options, not only in relationships, but in life.
We claim the life-affirming powers of spirit, breath, and wisdom, and reject the glorification of violence in all its forms. We are filled with unutterable sadness by the Book of Mormon story of more than 2,000 young soldiers whose mothers teach them that faith in God will preserve them in battles in which they kill other mothers' children. This is not a success story. It is a story of the failure of human relationships and the horrors of war. In a world that has grown increasingly violent, we believe that one of the most important passages in LDS scripture is D&C 98:16: “Therefore, renounce war and proclaim peace. . . .”
Our roles as mothers, sisters, daughters, partners, and friends are just a few of the many parts we will play in the course of our lives. We may influence hundreds, perhaps thousands of lives. But we are not our roles. We are created in the image of the divine—women of worth in our own right, in our choices, in our individuality, and in our belief that the life story we are ultimately responsible for is our own.
*****
There it is, sistahs. Tell me what you think!
Tuesday, November 13, 2007
Katie and Sam Slideshow
(Substitute Editor Marco here...) Andi's en route to Washington DC for a wedding shoot -- one of many round the world photo-gigs, we hope! Andi wanted to post this slide show so friends and family can OFFICIALLY meet our soon to be newest family addition. Sam and Katie are rumored to be headed for the altar as soon as they can get the temple to open their doors for business after Christmas.
Andi caught up with Katie and Sam at the SLC Airport parking lot (where they were dropping off the Tacoma for my late-night return) and she set up a portable photo studio in the back of the truck. Twenty minutes later .... Voila' - Engagement Pictures.
Katie, you're gorgeous! Sam you're dapper! What a pair!
Andi caught up with Katie and Sam at the SLC Airport parking lot (where they were dropping off the Tacoma for my late-night return) and she set up a portable photo studio in the back of the truck. Twenty minutes later .... Voila' - Engagement Pictures.
Katie, you're gorgeous! Sam you're dapper! What a pair!
Monday, November 12, 2007
I've cracked
Top three signs that it is time for your husband to come home for his 9 day business trip.
#1. This is what you make for lunch -- your lunch.
#2. You dig this out of some stranger's trash in Draper and call it your new playroom.
And #3 ... Even this face will to drive you CRAZY!!!!!
Thanks for coming home, Marco.
#1. This is what you make for lunch -- your lunch.
#2. You dig this out of some stranger's trash in Draper and call it your new playroom.
And #3 ... Even this face will to drive you CRAZY!!!!!Thanks for coming home, Marco.
Sunday, November 11, 2007
That was AWESOME
"That was AWESOME" is Xan's new amen. At least that is what he joyfully exclaimed when our friend Liam took the plunge into the waters of baptism yesterday. We had a great time thanks to Mirjam and her incredible edibles. (She should really post the recipes on her blog one day ... hint, hint.) No surprise that such elegant-looking people should have these beautiful, cherub-like offspring. Here are a few examples ...
Dapper Liam ... one of the newest members of the church.
Look at this child ... for the love of quilts! Sure she's darling, but watch out -- Louvis fights like a Swedish sailor.
And, finally, what a treat to see Rob and Georgia. While they are not technically children of Ethan and Mirjam, they are freakin' cute enough to qualify. Mirjam, maybe you and Ethan should consider adopting them.
p.p.s. Is it ecclesiastically tacky to request prayers of healing for my wireless connection? My "service" is going to drive me mad! If I suddenly drive to Vegas, burn down the 13th floor of Circus Circus only to finally turn myself in weeks later to mental health workers in Albuquerque ... you'll know why.
(Hey Cindy, I think you should tell that story. Do you have a picture of her from an old ward directory? Or a mug shot? Or a composite artist's sketch done from details provided by someone who is now in the witness protection program in Northern Idaho?)
Dapper Liam ... one of the newest members of the church.
Look at this child ... for the love of quilts! Sure she's darling, but watch out -- Louvis fights like a Swedish sailor.
And, finally, what a treat to see Rob and Georgia. While they are not technically children of Ethan and Mirjam, they are freakin' cute enough to qualify. Mirjam, maybe you and Ethan should consider adopting them.***********
p.s. Sorry no hot links. Blame it on my internet.p.p.s. Is it ecclesiastically tacky to request prayers of healing for my wireless connection? My "service" is going to drive me mad! If I suddenly drive to Vegas, burn down the 13th floor of Circus Circus only to finally turn myself in weeks later to mental health workers in Albuquerque ... you'll know why.
(Hey Cindy, I think you should tell that story. Do you have a picture of her from an old ward directory? Or a mug shot? Or a composite artist's sketch done from details provided by someone who is now in the witness protection program in Northern Idaho?)
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